Rape culture is not a myth, male privilege is not a myth, and if you want some blunt proof of that, click the link. TW: discussion by rapists of rape, discussion of rape by survivors, victim-blaming. This link was brought to my attention via Buzzfeed, here.
I don’t think it gets any clearer than this. I really don’t. Men are given a sense of entitlement to female sexuality, that extends from legislative discussion of reproductive rights and which supports and reinforces rape culture. From the double-standard to the failures of the justice system to the attempts to extend personhood to fertilized eggs, having a female-sexed body means never having an inherent right to one’s own body in this culture.
From the, “Fake Geek Girl,” trope that gets trotted out over and over, to casual misogyny in advertising (see: the Axe body spray ad where a woman is represented only by breasts) to Todd Akin’s medieval, “Legitimate rape,” theory and his proposition that refusing to enact equal pay legislation is, “Freedom,” we live in a culture in which we are taught to treat ourselves as commodities while we are treated as both beasts of burden and accessories.
We live in a world where the Catholic church is perfectly fine paying for Viagra used by unmarried men through insurance provided to employees, but files lawsuits and raises the hue and cry of moral objections when required to pay for contraceptives for women. Not just unmarried women, ALL women. Fortunately, a judge seems to have seen through the specious nature of at least one case, but it’s the principle of the thing: misogyny from top to bottom is an accepted part of our culture in the United States.
It’s the 21st century, we aren’t getting flying cars and in fact: we don’t really want them, but it’s also not the ’60s and Jane Jetson is not a modern woman.
Modern women come in all different flavors, have all sorts of ambitions from motherhood to being a CEO, and we are slightly more than half the US population.
It’s time to stop questioning whether an underlying culture of misogyny exists and time to focus on changing that underlying culture so that it doesn’t exist in the future.
Whether it’s street harassment, the failure to advance in the workplace, the presumption that employers have no need to offer childcare, the policing of female sexuality, or refusing to admit that gender bias drives so much of the fractious parts of the internet that most of us can no longer keep up with every instance of it… this has to end. I don’t care whether the misogyny is coming from men, women, social structures or prescriptive feminists. It has to stop. It is useless, time-wasting, energy-sucking, WEAK-ASS, and distracting.
I am too old and too tired for this.
ETA: Oh, and you don’t even want to get me started about the way both misogyny and prescriptive feminism get 100000x worse when you start parsing them through the intersections of class, race, ability, et al.