PetticoatDespot (Click for full comment on an also great article)
Yeah but WHY aren’t there more women in the tech center? Must be because of their genetically weird lady brains AMIRITE?!
I’m just going to assume that any other group or members of intersecting groups that aren’t straight, white, cis, able-bodied, class-privileged dudebros are going to have a similar experience.
Because the common factors in any field that excludes, (everything but teaching, carers, or service industry) is that straight, white, able-bodied, cis, class-privileged dudebros HAVE THE POWER AND PRIVILEGE to exclude.
It’s not that being any of those things in any combination is inherently bad, it’s that when the systems you dominate reward you for being an asshole while being a combination of those things, rather than discouraging you from being an asshole at all…
You’re probably going to be an asshole.
So here’s a tip: if you don’t want to be an asshole, make the conscious choice not to be. Do the work of not being an asshole. That’s going to require giving up shit you only get while being an asshole, and opportunities handed to you for just being a combination of traits. It’s kinda gonna suck.
The alternative is knowing you’ve chosen to be an asshole and that everyone knows you made that choice.
(And yes, white cishet, able-bodied, and class-privileged ladies: ditto.)